It should come as no surprise to Broadly readers that most of the world is organized around men. A man, Jacques Derrida, even created the word to express the idea: phallogocentrism. In short, the phallus defines the world, and for millennia it has defined sex. The insertion of a penis into a woman has been the defining line between virginity and its absence. How then, could two women—neither of whom happen to posses a penis—lose their virginity? How do they cross the slippery rubicon from innocence to experience?

My friends and I were talking about when we lost our virginities recently, and I said, without thinking, "15". It's when I first had sex, after all. But I wasn't expecting the follow up question — was it with a girl or guy? And, if it's with a girl, how do lesbians lose their virginity? What counts as sex?

Do not be horrified. In both cases it was consensual and no drugs or alcohol were involved. It's just that I really lost my virginity to another woman.

This caused some confusion as to whether the model going by the name "Laura Orsolya" were one woman or two different women. However, the general consensus now is that they are the same woman, and by most accounts the changes were an improvement. In 2008 she gained some more weight. She also has new tattoos on both legs, and her entire right arm is tattooed with a sleeve.